First things first. Regarding the memorial on Saturday, it was lovely and my friend's family generously hosted hundreds of people to an enormous Chinese lunch. Mere seconds after my friend's mother assured us that "nothing weird" would arrive at our table, this was placed on our lazy Susan.
Yes, that would be a decapitated and, I guess boiled, chicken head. One guest mentioned jokingly to my friend's mother later that her "assessment of nothing weird was not entirely accurate." It was a relief to enjoy some laughter that day, after all of the sad moments.